May the stars carry your sadness away, May the flowers fill your heart with beauty, May hope forever wipe away your tears, And, above all, may silence make you strong.

Chief Dan George (via thecalminside)

Had quite the ordeal at work yesterday. In short, coworker L told coworker M that I was telling people coworker M was stealing and hiding merchandise and needed to be watched.

I was super angry.

So mad that I was upset when I got home. And it woke me up sometime earlier this morning. Thoughts of how to get coworker L back.

I ended up dreaming about a gecko for a part of my dream. It was running around on the floor and I went over and picked it up. It was bigger than any gecko I’ve seen. As big as my hand. With a thin tail that had 3 circular metal discs in a line, one after the other, at the tip. It’s eyes were the color of a tiger’s eye stone. I put it close to my chest, right side, and it stayed there, with its head resting under my chin. I don’t remember putting it down again, but I might have.

I was looking at dream interpretations, as I’ve never had a gecko in my dream before. A couple of interpretations said seeing a gecko is an affirmation, that the answer to the question you have is a yes. Only I don’t believe I have any questions that need answering. Then I found this

"A wall gecko in a dream represents an evil person who is proud of himself, who encourages mischief, and dampens people’s spirit to do good. A gecko in a dream also represents a backbiter and a slanderer. Getting hold of a gecko in a dream means encountering such a person. Eating a gecko in a dream means backbitingpeople. If a gecko takes a bite from someone’s flesh in a dream, it means that someone will speak ill of him in public. A gecko in a dream also represents an avowed enemy who incessantly belittles his opponent and who drives from one place to another."

And I feel like this meaning is true for me. As my coworker is such a person. Dreams are an odd thing.

» Dealing with Insults: Don’t Take Anything Personally - World of Psychology


[Not responding] is how you are supposed to respond to insults, according to Don Miguel Ruiz, author of the classic book The Four Agreements.

The second agreement is simply this: Don’t take anything personally.

He explains:

Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally … Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.

Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds … Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up …

But if you do not take it personally, you are immune in the middle of hell. Immunity in the middle of hell is the gift of this agreement.